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What is self-leadership and why is self-leadership coaching important in your business & career

Whether you call it personal development, self-improvement or self-leadership, to me, it all comes back to the same concept: developing self-awareness, self-knowledge.

These concepts are not only about growing as a human being through life experiences but also expanding our consciousness to embody our authentic self, and practice self-love and radical self-acceptance.

When you can do this for yourself, you can do this for others and also inspire them to do the same.

We will tackle:

Leadership coaching and self-leadership

Why is leadership coaching important?

A little backstory about self-leadership

When I look back on my personal development journey but also on my business' path and evolution, I can clearly see that all this time, I have been leading myself and encouraging my clients to become the next-level version of themselves. No matter which service you'd team up with me for, it'd always come down to the same principles:

  • empowerment,

  • opening your own eyes to your own potential, to unlock it and own who you are

  • giving you the tools to keep growing.

As some of you may (or may not) know, I am a certified personal development coach, personal development is everything to me!

Personal development and self-leadership are the same thing, in my humble opinion.

Why? Because when you work on your own self-improvement and personal development, you're leading yourself to reach your next level of self-leadership embodiment on your self-growth journey.

Self-leadership as an entrepreneur

Everything comes from within - It's a Universal Law, the Law of Correspondence

Each pattern that exists in the Universe can be found at any scales - macrocosm and microcosm.

In other words, everything is created according to the same pattern, it is the famous “As above, so below, as within, so without”. The outside is a reflection of the inside and vice versa.

We see the world according to how we see ourselves. We are all One with everything, we are therefore One with ourselves. The physical, mental, emotional, spiritual aspects are found in the Universe and also in ourselves (as the whole being that we are).

Side note, I talk about this and about the universal Laws in my ebook:

Knowing the Universal Laws to Manifest your reality available here

According to this law, the outside is a reflection of the inside and we can definitely take responsibility for our reality: the way we see ourselves, the way we see certain events.

Even if we can't always control what is happening around us (because we are all co-creators and each action has its consequences) we can of course take full responsibility for our inner environment.

So, why is leadership and self-leadership important?

A few outcomes of self-leadership coaching

The more you decide to work on yourself, clear false beliefs, heal your traumas and find your truth, the more your consciousness will expand.

You will deactivate impulsive reactions and some painful emotional responses so that some things or situations won't trigger you anymore. You will reach more emotional freedom and emotional balance.

You will also heal shame and guilt which are 2 big emotions and feelings that are really harmful if we don't express them.

You don't need to carry shame, you don't need to carry guilt - no one does... You just need to radically accept yourself and take full responsibility for the way you feel, act, react and think.

You need to disengage from judgment (well all do, as a collective) and accept you're human, things happen and you can change your perception of things, of situations and of yourself.

Your mindset will also improve, the more you become aware of your false beliefs and thought patterns, the more you can understand them and shift them to take control.

Taking control doesn't have to be forceful, it starts with realising your pattern. You can't shift something you're not aware of, right?

After realising, you need to observe without engaging, just notice what comes up

Then you can shift and that's when expansion happens, that's when you're embodying self-leadership to the next level.

Step into self-leadership like a boss
Step into self-leadership like a boss

What is a leader?

Of course, the dictionary will say something like "someone who leads".

A leader can lead other people, a business, a team, a country.

But first and foremost a leader needs to lead himself/herself.

To me, being a leader is about self-leadership and self-leadership is about being the leader of your own life and walking the talk, not only talking the talk. It's leading by example to create more impact.

In order to lead by example, you need to go all in first.

It does NOT mean being perfect, fully healed and having no more false beliefs or wounds or trauma.

It does NOT mean you have it all together all the time, that you don't have "bad days" and that you are always positive and optimistic, living in the land of rainbows and unicorns :)

As an entrepreneur, you are a leader. Period.

Even if you don't have a team, even if you don't have thousands of followers on social media, even if you're not making 5 or 6-figure months. None of this matters when it comes to self-leadership.

An executive is a leader even if he or she doesn't manage a team.

Artists, writers and athletes are leaders.

You can totally be an "unconventional" leader, being your own unique self.

You're a leader when you lead yourself, when impact your clients, audience, community, coworkers, family, friends...

You impact people by realising that:

  • you matter and you can create impact,

  • everything is energy,

  • it all starts with you and within you.

Everything is energy, shine your light outwards, embodying self-leadership
Everything is energy, shine your light outwards

What does "embodying self-leadership" mean?

To me, embodying self-leadership involves 7 principles:

  • Self-transparency and Self-knowledge (or will to know yourself). I am putting them together because in order to know yourself, you need to be willing to be honest with yourself and look at every aspect of your life and personality without bypassing.

  • Self-awareness: being aware of what you can do and what you need to improve, being aware that everything is energy and that you play a role on the people around you

  • Self-acceptance: accepting who you are, as a human, for everything you are

  • Self-responsibility: taking responsibility for your actions, your results, letting go of blaming and shaming yourself or others, being accountable

  • Self-reflection: questioning yourself from a place of expansion

  • Self-leadership is also about emotional intelligence (= the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. Oxford languages)

Taming the ego and quieting the mind as a self-leader
Taming the ego and quieting the mind as a self-leader

Taming the ego and quieting the mind as a leader

Ego is NOT bad, I will never repeat this enough.

It's a component of the human mind, of human nature

(side note: all the New Age concepts who are telling you to get rid of your ego and that ego is bad are dangerous... you can't get rid of your ego, it's as silly as wanting to get rid of your toes, why would you do that? There's a difference between "getting rid of it" and "learning to tame it and silence your mind")

However, taming the ego, knowing how and when to use it is a life-changer.

Quieting the mind is a must as a leader. It doesn't mean the mind is not active sometimes or that you never get negative thoughts. It simply means you are aware and taking the lead (vs letting the mind overpower your whole being)

But the more you work on healing your wounds and developing a growth mindset, the less and less difficult it becomes to shift your thoughts and choose positive scenarios

Realizing you have the choice

When you decide to raise your awareness, you will see that you have choices.

For example in certain situations, you will observe and realize that the "old you" would have gotten angry at something your mother-in-law said but the "now you" understands the bigger picture, sees the patterns and consciously chooses not to engage.

Responding to life instead of reacting.

You stand in your power and you don't let external situations affect you more or longer than necessary.

Ex: You have a big deadline at work, you can choose to feel stressed and wonder if you'll finish on time or clear your head, trust yourself and go all in trusting you will.

No by-pass

As I said above, we're not about by-pass here. It's not about pretending that all is ok if it's not.

It's about giving yourself the grace and presence not to feel ok if you don't feel ok, to communicate your emotions and opinions fearlessly and in a constructive way.

Being a leader is not about being condescending or arrogant. Setting boundaries is healthy, acknowledging your talents and achievements is healthy and all of this can be done without belittling or shaming others, in a way that is empowering and showing them that they can do it too.

What does leadership coaching consist in?

Self-leadership is about having your mind work for you and not against you.

Let's take an example: in my 3-month program (From self-sabotage to Unlimited) we work on clearing subconscious beliefs and stuck energies so you can uncover false mind programming, gain awareness on how they have been affecting you and have tools to shift that so you can develop habits that serve you.

The way I practice? I mix energy and coaching to go deeper and help you shift faster. You can book your free clarity call here if you'd like to know more and see if it's a good fit for you :)

When you lead yourself, you need to deal with self-doubt, self-sabotage, triggers, fears of all sorts...

There are different symptoms that can show self-doubt and self-sabotage: procrastination, perfectionism, overwhelm, negative self-talk, self-punishment... you might not be aware you're doing these things.

Or maybe you are and you don't know how to shift them. (We tackle all that).

From self-sabotage to self-leadership: take the leap towards your goals
From self-sabotage to self-leadership: take the leap towards your goals

Dealing with self-sabotage while embodying self-leadership: you can be both a masterpiece AND a work in progress!

Have you ever heard the saying "you are both a masterpiece and a work in progress"? Well, that's pretty much what I mean when I talk about self-sabotage while embodying self-leadership.

In this episode, I tell you my perception of what a leader is and what it means to me to embody self-leadership.

Awareness comes in different levels, so does self-leadership and you are a leader, that's in your nature. So even if you self-sabotage and if sometimes you have negative self-talks and your mind works against you, it doesn't change anything to the fact that you're a leader. You're still leading yourself.

However, you can make your life easier and create more peace when you become aware of your self-sabotaging tendencies and that's exactly what this episode is aiming at doing.