How to Reprogram Your Mind
We are all conditioned by society from early childhood. We learn how to conform and what we should do to be a "good child". It's an on-going mind programming that we aren't aware of.
In this article, you'll have 4 actionable tips to shift your perspective and reprogram your mind from 4 common false / limiting beliefs causing subconscious blocks.
Please note that this article aims at raising Awareness because is the key to self-improvement. Read this article with benevolence towards yourself.
When I write an article, I always set the intention that it benefits the powerful people who will read it and serve their highest good. So this is your sign that changes have already started to happen.
✧ Cause of Limiting belief # 1 : Worrying about other people's opinion
Worrying about what other people might say or how they might judge you creates so many limiting beliefs. You might think you have to meet others' expectations or to conform to the "role" they see you play in their life.
It's usually when you're on your self-improvement journey and you're evolving towards the next version of yourself that those limiting beliefs come up to surface the most.
You imagine scenarios, maybe you're trying to stay "small" and unnoticed or maybe you don't dare go all in because you think people need to be prepared to your change.
So, here's the truth: Anticipating what others might say creates hindrances.
When we do that, we project our own insecurities (that we all have to an extent).
To go deeper, usually when you are afraid of other people's opinions, it means you don't accept yourself fully, you're ashamed of or reject some aspects of yourself.
How to change that
Become aware of the fact that you are reading this right now, it means you've already decided to change, so congratulate yourself for being a leader and a winner!
Try to see where self-judgment and self-criticism come from. Here's a few journal prompts to help you: "When was the 1st time this thought pattern started?" "What happened?" "What did I need back then and how can I give that to myself in the now?"
When you catch yourself worrying about what others might say, ask yourself what is really making you afraid in this specific situation and then ask "what is the truth?"
See yourself through the lens of love, ask yourself "how would unconditional love see me?"
Affirmation to switch to a more positive mindset
"I love myself an I let others accept me as I am"
"I welcome other people's opinions, those who are benevolent will help me grow and those who aren't don't belong in my reality"
"my job is to be authentic, I can't control what others think of me"
If you're struggling to practice radical self-acceptance and could use some extra resources to help with shadow work, I have a free masterclass that you can find here
✧ Cause of Limiting belief # 2 : Gossips and betrayal
Have you been confronted to gossips and people talking badly behind your back?
I think it's safe to say we all have at some point, and it's pretty unpleasant to say the least, isn't it?
Why do people gossip? Here's some truths that will help you break the fear and heal from past hurts and reprogram your mind from subconscious blocks
It has nothing to do with you, it is never about you
People who gossip and talk negatively about others behind their back do so from a place of fear, lack of connection with themselves and lack of self-respect.
It simply shows their own insecurity
Talking badly about someone is a way of rejecting them because they are perceived as some kind of threat, it creates more separation, a need from the gossiper to separate themselves from you because they're seeing that you doing things that they wouldn't dare do so it's easier for them to criticize others than actually taking actions to improve their own life
The truth is that whoever gossips is spending too much time outside of themselves seeking validation, distraction, attention or even reassurance.
If you are confronted to that, just see how the human in question lacks self-love, mentally send them compassion and keep on with your day.
Staying small will not help them and will hurt you. Keep shining and leading by example. You'll attract new people and those people will be your Tribe.
If you feel hurt or triggered, it's ok, be gentle with yourself.
Make sure to practice self-care and use this as an opportunity to see what fear or wound is linked to that.
Use the gossiper's low vibrational energy for your own growth, that's how you grow from every situation - as unfair as it is :)
Not sure how to do that? Let me know, drop me a message and it will be my pleasure to help you gain clarity :)
✧ Cause of Limiting belief # 3 : People pleasing & justifying yourself
Have you ever felt forced to do something you didn't really fancy doing just to please someone?
If that's you, don't worry, I used to struggle a lot with that and it has taken me time to improve...
What hides behind that is fear... It might seem similar to the fear of being judged and worrying about other people's opinions but there's a small difference in what's behind that... and it has to do with acknowledging your own needs.
Let me give you an example: back in the days, I'd always say yes to going out because
I was afraid to "disappoint" my "friends"...but when you think about it, a true friend worthy of the name is supposed to understand if you feel like staying home without taking it personally as a "she doesn't want to see me", and even if they'd think that, it's their story that's making up in their mind, their own wounds and their own limiting beliefs - right?