Healing resentment to break free from the past, grow your business & create a better future
If you follow my podcast, you know that I released a podcast episode entitled "The importance of Self-Forgiveness".
You can listen below to understand why forgiving yourself is a key factor when you build up self-trust to take your business to the next level.
(don't have time to listen now? Click here to save it for later)
But in this article, I want to talk about resentment and forgiveness in general. You know me, I'm all about diving straight into the topic without fluff so let's go.
Here's the map of the article:
- Forgiveness is a personal journey
- Freeing yourself & taking your power back
- The outcomes of healing resentment and forgiving
Forgiveness is a personal journey
Forgiving is something that you do for yourself. Not for anybody else and like I said in the podcast, if there is ONE being you should always forgive... it has to be YOU!
When it comes to forgiving someone else, no one can force you to forgive them or to forgive whoever caused you harm nor do you have to force yourself to forgive.
It is a process, a personal journey that you decide to take in your own time and in your own terms.
It can take time and happen progressively, by "layers", a back-and-forth process.
When you forgive, you free yourself and you cut the remaining cords between you and the other human in question.
But you don't NEED to tell the other human in question that you forgive them, you can if you want, but you don't HAVE to. And you don't need to hear their apologies, even if you feel it's necessary, even if you'd like for them to realize the harm they've done, this is still giving them too much power.
If they had malevolent intentions towards you, it's between them and their karma, their life path, their lesson to learn. You don't need anyone approval or validation - only your own :)
In any case, forgive yourself for whatever you may reproach yourself with.
Self-forgiveness is a must.
Why resentment is toxic
Did you know that if you keep resentment within you, you're maintaining the connection with this person who hurt you in the 1st place?
This connection has the form of etheric cords, meaning an energy "thread" that still connects you to the hurtful human/situation in question.
It can create an energy leak and contribute to keeping you stuck emotionally and mentally - as much as you want to move froward, you feel you can't.
These cords need to be cut!
Not only that... but maintaining the energies of resentment and holding them in your body actually creates energy toxics. These energies get stuck in certain organs (liver, kidneys...) and are lowering your vibrational frequency (basically affecting your energy and your wellness).
These energies can create discomfort, pains and if they're not released, they can even create more serious "dis-eases" as time goes by as far as health and wellness are concerned.
To talk about business, these lower vibrations can also affect your business. You can't compartment energy. If you're holding onto lower vibrational energies, even if it's in one area of your life, all areas are going to be affected:
You might be holding yourself back, restricting yourself, placing limitations... all of this is SUBCONSCIOUS, you're not doing it on purpose (so don't blame yourself, that's how human nature is, that's how the human mind works and that's an energy rule) yet it's still affecting your against your will. You can't know what you're not aware of, right?
This can affect:
your client attraction,
your performances,
your productivity,
your mental clarity (your thoughts aren't clear, like there's a "program" running in the back ground - aka this unfinished business, which could even turn into an obsession in some cases)
your enthusiasm, your joy and therefore your life force
your creativity
your level of energy
I feel you, it can be hard to forgive someone, I have struggled to forgive too but when I learned more about forgiveness, I realized I also had to forgive myself.
Of course, at first I thought "why do I have to forgive myself for what someone else has done to me?" and I know it can be a tough one in some circumstances...
But in reality, it's forgiving yourself for all these times you thought badly about yourself, felt guilty, abandoned yourself, rejected yourself and also for whatever situation happened in another life that might have contributed to create this situation.
It's important to always forgive yourself, then the rest comes easier.