Ancestral healing - heal family patterns & rewrite your story
We all carry our Ancestors’ DNA within us. Some of their traumas, secrets, burdens, false beliefs, unprocessed emotions are stored in our DNA.
To say it differently: what is unresolved is imprinted in our energy field and cellular memory and also stored in our subconscious mind.
In other words, we are carrying the weight of ancestral wounds that are like heaving baggages that aren't even ours and most of the time we don't realize the extent to which it can impact us!!!
Healing ancestral trauma and rebalancing ancestral karma can change your life.
Shamanic ancestral healing enables you to break free from negative family patterns, break ancestral trauma and ancestral curses.
When you do this for yourself, you heal your family tree for yourself, for the next generations and also for your ancestors - remember, everything is energy, so even if your some of your ancestors aren't in this physical world anymore, it will help their consciousness in more subtle ways.
In this article, we will talk about:
how ancestral healing helped my client heal from depression and boost her self-confidence
If you're interested in knowing more about my ancestral healing service, you can check out this page or book your free clarity call to chat about how ancestral healing could help you.
I use a mix of psychogenealogy techniques to which I was trained, as well as shamanic techniques and energy reading to bring peace and help you break free so you can write your own beautiful story (instead of repeating your ancestors' pains) - even if you don't know much about your family, using energy techniques enables to have complement of information.
Healing family patterns: going back to the root cause, the answer is within
Let me know if that sounds familiar:
struggling to find your life purpose
feeling lost, not fitting in the mold
feeling a void that you are sometimes trying to numb with all kinds of things (watching TV, alcohol, shopping, emotional eating, etc. no judgment here, we've all been there, trying to cope in our own way) but the void is still there
you are facing repeating patterns that you can't seem to get rid of
you are feeling uncomfortable in your family, there might even be open conflict, resentment, unexpressed emotions and things you are struggling to process...
Let me tell you, the answer is to be found within you, in the now. Going back to the roots of where you come from will help you clarify where you want to go - and not the other way around. Your true essence is the answer.
Even if you were adopted, raised by non-relatives or when to foster homes, this work is still possible if we think in terms of patterns.
In order to find your true essence, you need to go back to the origin of your life, your childhood and your family. Studying your family's history will help you see why you decided to incarnate with them.
And trust me, this is life changing, it changed my life by proving to me that I was exactly where I needed to be, that some of my limiting beliefs were not mine and actually had an explanation.
I found my purpose within my family and it reinforced the knowing of my life’s purpose in general. It has brought me peace and forgiveness.
This work has also changed the life of the clients I had sessions with, they were transformed into the highest version of themselves, reached more inner peace and clarity in their whole life history and they now have new foundations to build the future of their dreams.
When you know your origins, you can build your dream future every minute that goes by.
You can have peace of mind and resolve emotions and inner conflicts that were frustrating you or "haunting" you - you know how sometimes we think of a song and we can't remember the title? or you remember someone but can't remember their name? So you keep thinking about it in a loop... some family issues can feel that way, we keep thinking about it, trying to find a solution or an understanding that would make rational sense and bring us relief...
Well, this is possible with ancestral healing. You have even more solid foundations to reach your next level of success.
Sticking with family or choosing yourself?
Have you ever hear this kind of statement "You have to stick with your family and try to make things work because y'all share the same DNA"?
Well, I don't agree with that.
Yes, we share the same DNA and yes we can love our family yet not appreciate some members, it's totally ok and you don't HAVE to make things ok if it's a toxic environment. Sometimes some family members do horrible things to each other, sometimes to their innocent children too...
Remember that your responsibility is to do what is supporting your best interest from a place of self-love and growth.
The only way you can help your family is by helping yourself and freeing yourself.
Sometimes you can help directly and sometimes you can help indirectly, meaning that by doing you, your folks will see that you are a way-shower, even if it ruffles some feathers, at the end of the day your folks will see that they can do the same.
Let me share a specific story (because I have several, like for example choosing myself and going to live in another country, on the other side of the world even so that I could find myself, or even changing my name - this one is for later, keep reading!)
I love my cousins, I sincerely wish them well. Independently from this, a few years ago, I had to choose myself. Thanks to ancestral healing, I could do that.
A little back story: on this side of the family, there's a pattern of "all or nothing", it's either "all excited to connect, let's meet up" or "total ghosting, your messages are left unanswered". But when they have a problem, they run back to you for help.
It'd been like that for decades and it would continue with me...
One of my cousins randomly bumped into one of my parents during a festival and she suddenly felt the need to have me back in her life, after she ghosted me for years (something I wasn't upset about, just to show the magnitude of the disconnection for the sake of the story, I didn't know she had had a 2nd child a few years back - I honestly had no hard feelings).
This time I had to set a boundary and not repeat the same pattern again.
It wasn't an easy thing to do but I wanted to be honest with her and with myself.
I went within "what do I really want?" and I checked in with my emotions and feelings.
I didn't want to get away with some excuse like "I don't have time these days I'm busy. I chose to face it, as uncomfortable as it was. Even if I wanted to set a boundary, I still cared about her and I didn't want to upset her or be rude or inconsiderate.
Setting boundaries is compatible with kindness.
So I really analysed how I was feeling but there was no emotional charge behind my words: no hard feelings, no anger, no frustration. Just a neutral benevolence on my behalf.
So I kindly told her that I love her but I don't think it'd be beneficial that we would get back in touch because I left some family patterns behind. I wished her well and told her it wasn't against her.
That day, I broke the cycle that had been running on that side of the family...
Was it easy? No.
Did it feel good? Mixed feelings... On one hand side, I didn't want her to feel rejected (I can't be responsible for how she feels, but I was responsible for the words I was using and the emotional charge behind them).
On the other hand side, I didn't want to betray myself, so what felt good was to choose myself and feeling a shift deep within that an ancestral pattern was broken. A pattern that had caused a lot of suffering to generations before me.
Ancestral Healing empowers you and teaches you boundaries with family members. It teaches you to be comfortable with yourself and that you have to make your own decisions based on your own wellbeing (vs trying to please people with whom you only have DNA in common).
It also teaches you how shame and guilt are usually carried in the family, as well as fear of judgment and it helps with that.
Ancestral healing journal prompt
Is there any relationship in your family you wish you could be at peace with?
Do you wish you could say something to someone? If yes, what? Write them a letter, you don't have to give it to them, write it for yourself. Even if this person is deceased.
How do you see your role in your family?
Who do you want to be?
How could you be that version of yourself?
Whether the human in question is still alive or not, it is possible to bring inner peace with ancestral healing and energy work.
You can write and re-write your story. A story that starts with your name.
Ancestral healing and the origin and meaning of your name
Did you know that you chose your name before incarnation?
Yes, even if you don't like your name, it was chosen for a specific reason and a bigger purpose.
If you want to know a bit more about yourself, study the meaning of your name!
It sounds "simple", right?
1) life isn't meant to be complicated and
2) it is crazy what you'll learn when you understand the meaning of your name, even if it's a simple search on the Internet to start with.
I did a deep study of all my birth names and I got so much clarity, I then decided to legally change my name and gave birth to myself version 2.0.
I decided to legally change my name after having used my new name for a while...
I had to go to court indeed (that's how "simple" things were in France at that time, thank God it has improved now from what I have heard).
I was scared, not only because all these cold administrative procedures make me very uncomfortable (I was legit physically shaking and got a headache after waiting for more than 3 hours in a building that had a lot of heavy energies), but also because I wasn't sure my name change request would be approved, it all depended not only on my lawyer but on a judge...
I find this principle very unfair... how can someone else decide whether or not you can change your name? It's your freaking name after all, right? But that's another story, when you know the real history of our modern society...
After that, I still had to wait 2 more months to have the final decision from the judge... A total of 2 years of procedure, a file that was 2 centimetres thick, a lawyer, a lot of money... But it was so liberating when the positive answer came!!!
Let's say your don't like the bright red color and you're forced to wear a bright red sweater every day of your life... That's how my birth name felt to me... something I was very uncomfortable with, I didn't like the sound, the energy, the way people were always misspelling or mispronouncing it... I actually have a lot of funny stories about it...
I had been wanting to do that for a few years and learning about psychogenealogy in 2014 and doing Ancestral Healing is what made me go for it,
I learned so much about myself and I had had a great result at my exam (19 points out of 20) my teacher had written a note to congratulate me on the depth of the work I had done...
I didn't change my birth name to escape or run away from myself, or because I hated it and was angry. I changed it from a place of self-love, shedding the old that wasn't serving me and to claim my sovereignty, owning my own life and breaking free from family trauma.
My birth name was indeed a variation of the name of a baby who had died suddenly at one year old... among other uncomfortable things.
And I haven't regretted it one second, I really became myself fully. I know it might sound weird, but that's my story and I'm here to testify how life-changing ancestral healing is (of course you don't have to change your name :) )
Do you know what your name means?
Open a new tab and search the meaning of your name on your favorite search engine. Let me know in the comments what you will have discovered or message me! I'd love to know!
Client's story - when Ancestral Healing helped my very 1st coaching client you heal herself from depression and boost her self-confidence
I remember my very first client as a personal development coach back in 2015.
She was depressed, she had even confessed thinking about committing suicide and almost did it. She lacked self-confidence, was doubting herself a lot and seeing no light at the end of the tunnel.
Disclaimer: I am insisting on the fact that it's not ancestral healing alone that healed her depression. She was taking all necessary actions at a medical level and chose to work on her personal development as a complement to all she was already doing. So not all the credit goes to ancestral healing, but it for sure contributed in improving the way she was seeing herself and improved her self-esteem and self-confidence. It's important for me to be clear on that - I can't promise "miracles" :)
At the beginning of our work together, I sat with her; her relationship with her mother came up, I asked her questions and she realized that there were patterns from her mother that she was subconsciously repeating.
I showed her in a loving way how she could free herself and energetically help her mother too - this work has nothing to do with blaming or rejecting responsibility.
This work is about self-love, compassion for the self and for other family members. We went deep, I did a whole program for her and after we finished that program, she was a different version of herself: